This past year has been a journey of the unexpected and growth.  When you lose something that was never beneficial or healthy it hurts.  But, what you gain is a whole new perspective on life and what you really want out of it. 

So whenever you go through hard times the best way to get through it is to be open to it.  Embracing a difficult journey is the only way to get the healing.  You get a chance to grow from it and do things differently and react differently.  Maturity is staying calm, being positive, and be a loving human being.  Everything works itself out eventually.